Get the appBoth are built around a daily question you answer before seeing your partner's reply. Choose Paired if you want more around it: quizzes, games and expert-led journeys on topics like money and conflict. Choose Agapé if you want one personalized, research-based question a day, a large free question pool, and the option to use it with friends and family too. If you'd rather stay close through small moments than answer questions, Amourly is a third option for iPhone.
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Paired and Agapé share the core idea: a question a day, revealed once you've both answered. Paired builds a whole program around it; Agapé keeps it to a minute.
| Feature | Paired | Agapé | Amourly |
|---|---|---|---|
| Built around | Daily questions, quizzes and expert courses | One research-backed daily question | Small daily moments: notes, taps, moods, photos, drawings |
| Made for | Couples | Partners, friends and family | Couples only — a private space for two |
| Daily questions | Yes — answers are revealed once you both reply | Yes — personalized, revealed when you both answer | Not included — Amourly is built around everyday moments |
| Expert courses & advice | Yes — courses written with relationship therapists | Prompts developed with a university researcher | Not included |
| Love notes & messages | Discussion threads on answers | Not a core feature | Love notes with text, a photo or a drawing; replies |
| Photo sharing | Not a core feature | Not a core feature | Snaps that land on your partner's Home Screen; 24-hour stories |
| iPhone widgets | Not a core feature | Not a core feature | 7 widgets for Home Screen & Lock Screen: notes, mood, photo, drawing, days together, next special day |
| Shared memories | Not a core feature | Memories with comments | Shared journal of memories with photos, date and place |
| Anniversaries & countdowns | Important-date trackingEdge | Not a core feature | Special days with reminders and a days-together counter |
| Platforms | iPhone, Android | iPhone, iPad, Mac, AndroidEdge | iPhone |
| Free version | One daily question | Large free question poolEdge | Free: 7 journal entries, 7 love notes, 3 taps a day, 1 story a day, core widgets |
| Premium price (US) | From $14.99/month; annual plans listed $39.99–$79.99 | From $9.99/month; annual $19.99–$99.99; lifetime $199.99 | $9.99/month or $44.99/year |
| One subscription for both partners? | Yes — one partner pays, both get Premium | Not clearly stated | Yes — one Pro plan covers both partners |
Both reveal your partner's answer only after you've both replied. Paired's question sits inside a bigger app with quizzes, games and expert-led journeys. Agapé's question is personalized to you and the person you're matched with, and you can opt into categories like long distance, engaged, parenting or managing finances.
Both point to research. Paired builds its Premium journeys and topics with guidance from experts. Agapé's prompts were developed and pilot-tested with a University of Rochester psychology professor.
Agapé has the more generous free tier: you can answer thousands of questions without paying, with premium categories listed from $9.99/month, $19.99–$99.99/year or $199.99 lifetime. Paired's free tier is one daily question; Premium is listed from $14.99/month, with annual plans from $39.99 to $79.99, and one subscription covers both partners.
Agapé, yes. It works with partners, friends and family, and tailors the question to each relationship. Paired and Amourly are made for couples.
If a daily question already feels like one more thing on the list, Amourly is lighter. There's nothing to answer. Send a note, a tap or your mood whenever they cross your mind, and it shows up on your partner's widget.
Send a hug, a kiss, a poke or a boop in one tap. Your partner gets a notification, and it's a small, honest way to say you're on their mind.
Days together, your next special day, a note preview and your partner's mood can sit right where you check the time.
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All three are free to download. Paired's free tier gives you one daily question, and Agapé lets you answer thousands of questions for free. Amourly's free version includes notes, taps, moods, photos and core widgets with daily limits.
Paired and Amourly both cover your partner with one subscription; Agapé doesn't clearly say. Prices are US App Store list prices, checked on the date shown, and can vary by region and promotion.
Paired is one of the best-known couples apps. Founded in London in 2019, it is built around a daily question that both partners answer before seeing each other's reply, plus quizzes, games and courses written with relationship therapists.
Agapé sends one personalized question a day, revealed once both people answer. Its prompts were developed and pilot-tested with a University of Rochester psychology professor, and it works for partners, friends and family.
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Paired suits couples who want daily questions plus quizzes, games and expert-led courses. Agapé suits people who want one research-based question a day with a big free pool.
Yes. Agapé is free to download and lets you answer thousands of questions for free. Premium categories need a subscription, listed from $9.99/month.
No. Agapé works with partners, friends and family, and personalizes the question to each relationship. Paired and Amourly are built for couples.
Yes. Both are on iPhone and Android, and Agapé also runs on iPad and Apple silicon Macs. Amourly is currently iPhone-only.
Yes. Amourly is built around small everyday moments like love notes, taps, moods, photos and drawings, rather than a question to answer.
We compared each app's public App Store listing, official website, help pages, and published pricing, and read recent public reviews for recurring themes. Feature lists change often, so we re-check these pages regularly. Last checked .
Disclosure: this comparison is written by the team that makes Amourly. We've aimed to describe every app fairly, including where another app is the better fit. If something here is out of date, email support@amourly.app and we'll correct it.
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